Funny Thing About Love

I haven't posted anything in a long while, but this is something that has been floating around in my mind for almost 2 years now. And yup, it all started with Anna. Well...let me take that back - it actually started 15 years ago with Anna's mama.

You see, when I first saw Joyce many moons ago, it was her looks that hooked me (yes, I'm shallow, but I'm honest - that cancels out each other, right?). As I got to know her, it was her personality that began to soak into my concrete soul. Several years later, it wasn't just her that I enjoyed so much, but the way she made me feel about myself and about life in general that became my drugs of choice. I simply enjoyed her company so much that I knew I needed and wanted her by my side for the rest of my days. Of course, having said that, it was a long a bumpy road. And there were many times when we both could've walked away from one another. But now, I'm not really sure what she would have to do for me to seriously walk away from the life we have now. I'm sure if she cheated on me or something along those lines, I would have a hard time keeping this marriage together, but deep down inside me, I would still have a spot in my heart for her.

So what's the point of this? It's simple, it took a lot of time and effort before love decided to set up shop in our relationship. We both made sacrifices and will continue to make sacrifices in both our lives because it's worth it. But the ironic thing is - and this is a big BUT - when Anna came into our lives, love was automatic.

I had always heard about this mystical creature called "unconditional love", but had never crossed paths with it. Not until 3.14.2010. That was the day a little round baby fell into our arms and with no effort whatsoever, managed to make two strangers fall in love with her in a heartbeat. WTF right? I don't get and I can't explain it. And you know what, I don't even think it's fair. Anna can do pretty much anything, piss us off all to hell, and we can't stop loving the little thing. I'm sure that will get tested to the extreme once she gets older, but I still think she'll be carrying around this "Get Out Of Jail Free" card that she can always cash at the bank of Baba&Mama.

Armed with this new found knowledge, I began to reflect on my own behavior towards my parents. I'm definitely still an ass at times, but it's just so damn hard to be a good son, though I do try. So Baby A and Baby B, when you guys are old enough and if your eyes ever grace the text in this post, please oh please for the love of all that is good in this world, be kind to your mom and dad, because no matter what you guys do, we will always love you.


  1. This is ... well ... so beautifully put. Luke, you've done a wonderful job expressing how and what guys feel... I hope you go beyond hopeing that Anna sees these words - and ensure that she does, when the time is right.

  2. Anna is lucky to have such a hands-on, gentle, and caring Papa. And yes, unconditional exists and so true.

  3. This post made me cry....especially the last paragraph. So true - it seems so hard to be a good child to your parents, but then again, parents always love their kids no matter what.


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