Thursday, September 30, 2010

thoughts on being a working mom

Life as a working mom isn’t as bad as I thought it would be. In fact, I am really liking it.

Reasons why I have no complaints:

: First and foremost, I am not a super mom and I can’t care for Anna 24/7 without breaks. Work is my break. I bow to those SAHMs who do it day in and day out.
: At work, I get to have adult conversations. I get to socialize.
: I have a positive attitude toward work now. I appreciate having a good, steady job.
: All about the money. Saving for retirement, living a comfortable life, and (hopefully) doing stuff that we want to do.
: I know Anna is well taken care of at home by her Grandma. This is not to say that I don't wish hub's mom would do things exactly the way I would do them, but I know at the very least she does it with good intentions. And when we ask her to consider a different alternative, she's very acceptable.
: When I go home in the evening, I play with Anna, feeling refreshed and energized because I haven’t seen her all day. Since she's rarely fussy now, we spend good quality time together.

Reasons why it’s working out:

: I waited until Anna was 5.5 months before going back to work. By then, she wasn’t a newborn and had a set routine. I wasn’t leaving a helpless baby behind.
: My job is flexible & stress free. Commute isn’t terrible. No overtime.
: The biggest reason of all - we have a FANTASTIC situation where hubby’s mom COMES TO OUR PLACE to take care of the baby. No daycare drop off/pick up saves us a lot of time. I only have to get myself ready in the morning and I go straight home after work.

On the other hand, as well as being a working mom is going for me, sometimes I wish I wasn’t one.

Reasons why being a working mom is tough:

: I practically have no free time. From the minute I wake up at 5am to when I go to sleep around 9:30, I am always doing something. Life is on a constant go. I don’t have time to aimlessly surf the interweb. I wish there were more hours in the day.
: Time away from Anna. She’s growing up fast and I am missing the little moments. But then I just tell myself: she is asleep 4 of the 9 hours I am away anyway.
: Paying more than what I used to pay for everyday things. I’ve stepped down as the Coupon Queen. There is just simply not enough time (or energy) to strategize where to shop for cheapest deals. Being a bargainer at heart, this is hard to adjust.

But, for our family, for now, the pros definitely outweighs the cons.

At first, I thought I would miss Anna when I am away from her…(and I do)…but when things get busy at work, I glance at her pictures in my cubicle and continue working. No big deal. Work days go by so quickly now.

Of course, if we were multi-millionaires, I would choose not to work.

I would stay home…but hire a nanny. :)

3 comments:

  1. When I see any good deals, I will let you know!

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  2. I can be a nanny. Working blows...

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  3. LOL@Lawnmower Man... I was going to volunteer too!

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