JL no more...on paper

As soon as I found out that our marriage certificate was ready for pick-up on the Wednesday morning after our Disneymoon, I left work early that day and drove straight to the courthouse to pick up several notarized copies. I then headed straight to the nearby social security office and put in a request for a new card to go with my new name. I left the place with an official letter of my name change (card would be mailed to me 2 weeks later) and along with the marriage certificate, I proceeded to change my name on my bank accounts, credit cards, frequent flyer mileage programs, Amazon, ebay, pretty much ANYTHING that I could think of. I wanted everything to reflect my brand new name! By Saturday afternoon, I received my new driver’s license and weeks later, new passport. I’ve heard newly married women taking months, even years sometime, to change her name. I did it in less than 2 weeks flat (not including processing time of others beyond my control).

I always knew I wanted to change my name after getting married. I wanted to have the same last name as my husband. One, less confusion (are you Mrs. C or Ms. L?). Two, unity. Before the wedding, I contemplated on how my new name should read.

1) First Middle OldLast NewLast
2) First OldLast NewLast
3) First Middle NewLast

I was sad that I would be losing my Maiden name so option 2 was tempting. I also didn’t want to lose my middle name (my Chinese name that my dear aunt gave me) so option 1 was nice as well, although a little bit too long. I ended up deciding on option 3. Decision was already made prior to the wedding.

I changed my name so fast that I didn’t get a chance stop and give a thought about what I just did! One day I woke up as a L and by the end of the day, I was a C. When I was at the counter at DMV, I suddenly realized that they would be taking away my old license that I quickly took a picture of it using my camera phone. I was a L for 29 years and it was bittersweet to say goodbye.

I never thought I would be saying this, but I was so glad to have a camera phone!

It’s been almost 3 months now and on paper, I am JC. However, often I find myself pausing between my first and last name when introducing myself at work. I am sure it will take a little longer for me to be comfortable saying my new name.

JL will always be a part of me. I grew up as JL, had my first job as JL, went to college as JL, got married as JL. Nowadays, I don’t long for the L anymore, because I know I will always remember it (plus there are some documents, such as Citizenship Certificate, my diplomas, student IDs, that can’t be changed so they will serve as reminders!). However, I am curious and anxious to find out what being JC will bring!

New driver's license, taken using my SD800.


  1. Bye Bye Lee! Lee No More! Lee Lee Go Away, Come Again Another Day!

    Lee Free or Die!!!!

  2. how long did it take to get your new passport? I heard horror stories that it's taking months. People have to get the local news to step in for a dying woman's wish for family reunion.

  3. still ms. ou, not long at all. Less than 4 weeks I think.

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